This has been a place where I don’t have to defend or justify my actions – staying with my partner through her transition, struggling with her during med shortages, continuing to support her through depression – because there’s no judgement and no assumptions, just support.
It’s really nice to be in a setting where I’m not constantly having to explain that I’m NOT a saint for staying with my partner through transition; “goodness” and “kindness” has nothing to do with me loving my partner regardless of her gender.
E
It’s a safe space to share and relate daily struggles and celebrations with people who are going through similar situations. It’s nice to know that what I feel is valid and someone out there understands me
K
Distinction helped me find people like me, who loved and cherished their partner and wanted to continue their relationship but needed a space to process the changes to our lives without judgement. I was able to speak freely without people interpreting my emotional response to my wife’s ‘coming out’ as doubt about the future of our relationship. With the support from this group I knew that what I was feeling was normal, and that we could get through it, and now my wife and I are happier and closer than we have ever been before.
L
My partner came out to me during lockdown and, having found Distinction, I have found a place of support and advice that has helped me so much. People have generously shared their stories giving me courage and knowledge to help my partner however the future may go.
R
I have found this group very supportive. I don’t want to burden trans friends with my feelings, but my cis friends often don’t understand. It’s been really helpful to find a group who are trans-positive, but understand that there can be complicated feelings for partners.
L
I felt completely alone when my partner transitioned. All I had found were stories of break-up, hatred, hurt. The stories here have helped affirm the transition that I as a partner experienced and continue to experience. Welcoming. Supportive. Honest. Grounded in lived experience.
K
Distinction is a fantastic website and Facebook group which has given me support in hard times and a place to share the good times. Everyone is so supportive and I feel safe and that I can say anything without judgement. It is a safe place where I can interact with others who understand my situation. It has helped me in so many ways the best of which is to know I’m not alone and my feelings are valid.
Thank you.
C
I had spent many years looking for a supportive space as a wife of a trans woman. Everywhere seemed to be full of negativity and never seemed to be a real safe space where you could really talk honestly. I happened across Distinction in 2016 and have never felt so comfortable. It is a real mix of different partners with different experiences but just so supportive.
A
A precious space where we are included and understood.
M
Distinction is a welcoming place where I know I can share my stories and questions and the responses are genuine and from other people that are looking for solutions with their partners not just looking for a way out. I remember in the 1st days of my partner coming out how overwhelmed and confused I was. I googled things and only found stories of relationships ended and people being hurt and vindictive and then I found this group and it was a breath of fresh air, just knowing that there were other people that wanted to stay and still loved their partners. It was game changing for me and gave me hope for my marriage.
S
Distinction is the only place I’ve found to talk about everything. I have no family or friends that I trust enough.It even helps just reading other people’s stories. It’s a welcoming, supportive and safe space.
S
Somewhere I can chat to others who understand the challenges and who can share in the triumphs from our unique perspective.
J
It’s a safe space to share and relate daily struggles and celebrations with people who are going through similar situations. It’s nice to know that what I feel is valid and someone out there understands me.
K
I joined Distinction over 2 years ago, a few days after my partner told me that they where MTF. My life was shattered what would I do, where would I go and how could I cope. I did not know which way to turn. I was introduced to Distinction through a nurse at work who found the group and recommended the book Trans Partner Support Handbook written by Jo Green, the original founder of Distinction. I ordered their book and began reading in earnest.
I joined the group and was accepted as a member very quickly and really felt supported from my very first post until present day. I couldn’t believe that there where others in the same situation as I was. I wasn’t the only person although I must say it felt like it. Through the group I have made some very good friends and have been able to accept and love my wife more and more enjoying the family journey that we are all on now. THANK YOU
R
Distinction is a welcoming place where I know I can share my stories and questions and the responses are genuine and from other people that are looking for solutions with their partners not just looking for a way out. I remember in the 1st days of my partner coming out how overwhelmed and confused I was. I googled things and only found stories of relationships ended and people being hurt and vindictive and then I found this group and it was a breath of fresh air, just knowing that there were other people that wanted to stay and still loved their partners. It was game changing for me and gave me hope for my marriage.
S
Distinction is the only place I’ve found to talk about everything. I have no family or friends that I trust enough.It even helps just reading other people’s stories. It’s a welcoming, supportive and safe space.
S
These people on Distinction aren’t just sympathetic to my situation they’re literally going through it along with me.
J
It’s a safe space to share and relate daily struggles and celebrations with people who are going through similar situations. It’s nice to know that what I feel is valid and someone out there understands me.
K
I joined Distinction over 2 years ago, a few days after my partner told me that they where MTF. My life was shattered what would I do, where would I go and how could I cope. I did not know which way to turn.
I was introduced to Distinction through a nurse at work who found the group and recommended the book Trans Partner Support Handbook written by Jo Green, the original founder of Distinction. I ordered their book and began reading in earnest.
I joined the group and was accepted as a member very quickly and really felt supported from my very first post until present day. I couldn’t believe that there where others in the same situation as I was. I wasn’t the only person although I must say it felt like it.
Through the group I have made some very good friends and have been able to accept and love my wife more and more enjoying the family journey that we are all on now. THANK YOU X
R